Real healing

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I just posted a comment on another blog that i feel in recovery as far as a med cocktail but it doesn’t excuse the mal coping skills i have. I love spending money even though I’m on a tight budget. I eat too much and I’m a bad friend. I truly don’t know how to fix it all. Im stumped. It’s not from lack of wanting to. I just seem to stick to what is easy. Will i ever make life changing progress?

6 thoughts on “Real healing

    morgueticiaatoms said:
    February 24, 2020 at 7:35 pm

    Spending too much money when you know you don’t have it and eating too much are often signs of hypomania or full blown mania, or even depression. Yes, you can be on a working med cocktail and still have symptoms, but I don’t know enough about your diagnosis or regime to say that with any accuracy.
    My mom spends money she doesn’t have and overeats because she is borderline and those are the only things that seem to make her feel good. She says there’s no problem, though.
    As for being a bad friend, is that your own perception or is this actually how others see you?
    If you really want to ‘fix’ things about your behavior, pick one that causes you the most problems in life and tackle it first. One day at a time, one ‘quirk’ at a time. Nothing happens overnight and there will be times you revert to old ways but making the effort can improve your self esteem and how you view yourself so it’s worth a try.

      socialworkerangela responded:
      February 24, 2020 at 7:39 pm

      I have bipolar and have been diagnosed before with borderline as well too. You’re right i just need to start small on one thing

    Revenge of Eve said:
    February 24, 2020 at 10:51 pm

    You must crawl before you can walk. My first focus was patience because, without it, you will not move forward. I didn’t ask for it rather I practiced how to not respond to that urgency because I somehow realized, there truly is no rush. That was a HUGE feat for myself and something I continue to practice daily but I no longer have my focus on the reaction because it is rare my patience is tested these days (it isn’t easy and that is what makes it worthwhile). Next, I had to TOUCH the root of most of my struggles; negative, loathing self-talk. Each of our processes will look different and that is the beauty of it. In my opinion, once I learned it isn’t about the situation, it is about how I respond to it, everything else kind of popped up in an order of their own. Love yourself. Be kind to yourself because I won’t lie…my shedding of toxic self has been painful as hell but undeniably worth every tear and realization. You can do it. Believe in your worth because you deserve to invest in yourself. ❤

    A Single Parent's Life said:
    February 25, 2020 at 1:01 pm

    I am the same way with money when I know I don’t have it I will spend more than I should. It’s like oh well I don’t have what I need what is $5 or $50 more going to matter. What really helped me when I started getting caught up and a few things paid off/down was an app. It is called Vault you start off with your balance and then you can set up for when your paychecks are going to go in and when your bills are going to be paid out. I set it up so that a different bill was paid each week, I set up so that my checks were each in. Other than that each time I spend money I stopped and logged it. It keeps track of how much money you have each day and you can look ahead to see how much you are going to have on any given day once your bills come out. Seeing what I could have on X day if I don’t spend on unneeded things really helped me save. Or when I would buy things I shouldn’t and I had to log them and seen how much I could of had if I didn’t buy it. It also help me make sure that I bills covered every week without cutting things to tight. Its all about seeing the change in your balance as soon as you buy something makes a huge difference vs. seeing it on your bank statement or just knowing in your head that it is like that.

    Carol Anne said:
    March 23, 2020 at 11:47 am

    You are making progress, there really is no rush, healing isn’t linear! x

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