Fat shamed

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Recently I have been fast shamed by my mom and boyfriend separately. It’s horrible for my self esteem. I’ve come to expect it from my mom is been thirty years of it. But it came out of left field from my boyfriend. It started as an innocent conversation then bam. The topic of why I don’t lose weight comes up. It’s never come up before and I didn’t have the cajones to question it so of course I’m hating on myself for that. This relationship is slowly turning into the marriage I left. I need to find the courage to speak up or get out. I just want someone to love me for me.

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6 thoughts on “Fat shamed

    Ana P. Rose said:
    February 18, 2018 at 1:32 pm

    I recently had the same thing happen with my family. I wanted an extra bite, and they all went on a dialogue how I shouldn’t eat another piece. I was so angry. I usually have thick skin, but to get ganged up really got to me. When I was younger, I used to be very heavy, and I experienced a few fat-shaming moments, which led me to eventually want to lose weight. I did. A few years later, I’m a roller coaster. I go up and down. If you don’t mind me saying this, whatever you do, do it for yourself. Do it for your health because, in the long run, you’re with you throughout all your life. Do whatever is comfortable for you, not others. If you’re happy the way you are, then good. It’s all about perspective. It doesn’t affect some people but it does others. If something affects you, I’m sure you have the power to change it. I hope none of this sounds bad to you. It was just interesting to me to see your post because I was so angry about the extra bite yesterday. Today, I feel sort of better…I think. I’ve been there, hating myself. But we gain nothing from that. It’s best to try to dig up from the dirt and mud of insults. Don’t feel about yourself. I hope you feel better 🙂

    ashleyleia said:
    February 18, 2018 at 1:40 pm

    That is so not okay.

    bethanyk said:
    February 18, 2018 at 3:01 pm

    So wrong !!!!! Its so hard to find a voice though to stand up to bullies. I can do it for others but not myself

    Yinglan said:
    February 18, 2018 at 4:46 pm

    OMG, that’s horrible! It’s so not okay for them or anyone to do that. I go through the same kind of thing every time I visit my family in China and hearing this kind of thing just makes me so angry. I’m sorry you’re going through that.

    Donnalee said:
    February 18, 2018 at 6:47 pm

    That is so disappointing. I hope you can find the solution you want, whether it’s to move on from this person or whatever is best for you.

    Jen Standing said:
    February 19, 2018 at 3:36 pm

    Ugh I’m so sorry – that’s awful. Why anyone feels they have the right to comment on another person’s weight is beyond me… hugs.

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