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I have a question… I’m very proud of my blog. It’s also very personal and raw. How many of you share your blog with people you know in real life? I haven’t told my new friend about my blog. I know he’d want to read it but I feel like it’s a secret. Is it ok to not share it with him? Any insight would be helpful.

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    Culbert Sinnsen said:
    November 8, 2016 at 4:39 pm

    The only one I have shared my blog with in my personal life is Miranda. There is NO WAY I would share it with ANY of my family.

    aredsunday said:
    November 8, 2016 at 4:44 pm

    Only one person knows I have this blog. I told my Mom about it and she immediately wanted to know my name and what site. My Mom is my best friend and telling her no was hard but, it’s needed to set boundaries. I feel safe to post here because, I have no fear my family will be reviewing my posts daily. My Mom agreed with me that something like my blog is something that I need to myself and private . Don’t feel bad. A good friend will respect your privacy, as anyone should.

    El said:
    November 8, 2016 at 4:45 pm

    The only persons that know about my blog is my boyfriend, my therapist, and my friend holly. They know of it but they have never read it or wouldn’t know how to find it. It’s a possibility that I might let my therapist or boyfriend if he turned in to my husband read it, but no promises made.

    Yinglan said:
    November 8, 2016 at 4:46 pm

    I’ve gotten to the point where I no longer tell people about my blog because I don’t want them to complain about me talking behind their backs when writing on my blog is a way for me to get my feelings of my chest.

    A Beautiful Catastrophe said:
    November 8, 2016 at 4:48 pm

    No, I think it is perfectly normal!! I did not tell anyone about my blog for about the first year! Still the only people that even know how to access it are my boyfriend and an ex. Neither of which actually follow it. My boyfriend of a year and a half understands that it is very private and always asks before he even looks at it. A few people know that I keep one, but I have not given them access to it. I noticed that when I felt that people I knew were going to read it, I over-thought everything that I blogged about.
    Now that I have ‘restricted’ the people who look at it, I am much more into blogging again!

    Elusive Trope said:
    November 8, 2016 at 4:54 pm

    It is in my opinion quite alright to not share your personal blog with people you know. Just because you share it on the world wide Web doesn’t somehow relinquish your right to keep private expressions from those close to you. It would be the same as someone saying “well, you told your therapist and your doctor, why can’t you tell me.”

    Blooming Lily said:
    November 8, 2016 at 5:02 pm

    No one knows except my two therapists. They only read posts when I tell them to (i.e.
    “Please read this specific post”). I’ve considered sharing it with others, but I would no longer enjoy the same feelings of freedom and safety that I experience here as an anonymous writer. It’s perfectly okay for you not to tell him about it – or, if you feel the need, it’s fine to say that you have an online blog, it’s kind of like a journal, and so like a journal, you want to keep it private. If he has healthy boundaries, he should respect that (and recognize how healthy journaling is!) xoxo

      socialworkerangela responded:
      November 8, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      Thank you for replying… On a side note I would like access to your blog posts how do I get that if ok with you

        Blooming Lily said:
        November 8, 2016 at 5:49 pm

        of course it’s okay! what you have to do is go to my blog and click “request access” and that will send me an email that will allow me to let you in!! 🙂

    Up and Down the Rabbit Hole said:
    November 8, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    I’ve shared my blog with anyone who cares to read it. Family, friends, etc can read it if they so wish. ‘Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter, don’t mind x ;)’ If its a new friend, then the best way to find out if they are going to be a good friend is to put it out there, if they are worth their sort, they will stick around. If they aren’t then best you found out now, and a better one will be around the corner. xx

      socialworkerangela responded:
      November 8, 2016 at 5:27 pm

      Hmmm I think you have good points

        Up and Down the Rabbit Hole said:
        November 9, 2016 at 4:44 pm

        Its what works for you but I guess I have come to a point in my life, that rather than hiding who I am, I am embracing it. So, it works for me, but not everyone may feel the same. On some other comments, I do understand that perhaps it acts as a vessel to release emotions and perhaps those emotions they wish to keep it from prying eyes x

    Mel (Hippo256) said:
    November 8, 2016 at 5:14 pm

    Only my partner knows I have one, but he doesn’t read it or anything. He wants to keep it a private place for me. Nobody else knows, sometimes I have the urge to share a post with someone but they can’t know about my blog. If they read stuff.. it would be too risky. I think telling or keeping it private are both fine choices, it depends on your situation, your blog and how you feel about it.

    avaswan said:
    November 8, 2016 at 5:32 pm

    I would only share with him if you feel he could read it and not be judgemental of you. I don’t have anyone read mine because it is where I can unload without their judgement.

    Ollie Hood said:
    November 8, 2016 at 5:47 pm

    A few of my mates know about my blog, but I would be horrified if other people found out as I would worry they would think I’m a freak x

    Sharon DeVinney, Ph.D. said:
    November 8, 2016 at 5:57 pm

    I am not anonymous on my blog, but that actually hinders me from being as open as I would like to be. I don’t think you need to share it with anyone, unless you want to. There are no rules here…

    Aunt Tabbi said:
    November 8, 2016 at 7:19 pm

    My family and friends know that I have a blog. They’ve never asked how to find it and I’ve never volunteered the address. But a quick search online and mine is easy to find. (I did it to see if it would come up.) I am open and honest in my blogs, but if we were in the same communications in person with family and friends I would probably be the same way. I think they see it as a way for me to vent and connect with people outside of the situations going on in life. I don’t think they really care one way or another. It’s your decision. Like I said, mine know that it exists, but they don’t seem to want to read it. My previous blog I shared the address to with everyone I knew and none of them read it.

    shatteredwish said:
    November 8, 2016 at 7:23 pm

    No rules. A private place. A private space. I have regretted sharing with others in the past. It has its advantages and disadvantages.

    stuffthatneedssaying said:
    November 8, 2016 at 7:40 pm

    I have a select group of friends who get links to new posts, and my therapist reads specific entries when I ask her to. There are many people I wouldn’t deliberately share with though.

    jlstanding said:
    November 8, 2016 at 7:41 pm

    Go with your gut. My family follows my blog, but I don’t write too much about day to day life so maybe thats different 🙂

    blackgirldown said:
    November 8, 2016 at 8:20 pm

    My husband doesn’t read mines or my mother! Now my nosey ass sister does and just reads to put me down. I share it with you all and people all over the world because I don’t feel judged. Keep it to yourself if you feel you need too!

    jennymarie4 said:
    November 8, 2016 at 9:59 pm

    My blog is anonymous, and very few people in my life know about it, and even most that know about it don’t read it. I used to think it’d bother me, that it’s anonymous… like I couldn’t tell the truth. But it’s the opposite! I find it freeing that I’m not worried about what people will think. And I’m probably more truthful with my thoughts and feelings. It’s funny that it’s private, yet very public. You should keep it private if you feel more comfortable with that!

      some bloke said:
      November 11, 2016 at 5:05 pm

      ditto on all counts ☺

    A Single Parent's Life said:
    November 8, 2016 at 10:03 pm

    One person in my family, and a couple friends know I have it but I know they do not read it. I do not tell anyone that I have it anymore, I told the others when I first started it and no one since. I feel it is my place to come and vent and say just how I feel about whatever it is without anyone having something to say about it.

    bethanyk said:
    November 8, 2016 at 11:54 pm

    I post my blog posts public on my Facebook. It was hard at first but I want the rawness of my blog and my life to just be out there. It is a risk but I feel like I don’t want to hide it anymore. I also don’t have a job….so I don’t know how I would post if coworkers read it, but my husband coworkers can read mine

    Liz said:
    November 9, 2016 at 2:10 am

    My mum knows I have my blog and friends do, some who I know follow and read it. My mum cannot follow with her having no internet and not interested in having internet, so sometimes, depending on discussion I will turn on my laptop so she can read it. My other family members don’t have their own internet or into that technology, so I don’t bother telling them for something they cannot see.

    Mine is a public blog as you know and I have a photo on my blog and profile, so someone else could be reading this that knows me in some way. I don’t care.

    It’s not wrong to keep your blog secret from others. Share if you want and to those who you trust, if you choose to. 🙂

    Introverted Blahs and Hurrahs said:
    November 9, 2016 at 8:34 am

    My family doesn’t know about my blog. I only told few close friends I feel save with.

    monlvz said:
    November 9, 2016 at 12:42 pm

    I have with one person, and it is a person I was deeply in love with.
    I would never share it with anyone else. It is a deep, raw look into my life. I’m not even sure I would let my own therapist see me being so vulnerable. I’m scared of people knowing just how fucking crazy I am.

    Learning to Love My Demons said:
    November 9, 2016 at 7:13 pm

    I share my blog openly with family and friends and urge it to share it with their family and friends. HOWEVER, I am using my blog to help people understand myself and others who suffer from mental illness. If your blog is strictly personal you shouldn’t feel obligated to show it to anyone unless its something you truly feel comfortable doing. Its not a dirty little secret, its just personal. 🙂

    Kylian said:
    November 10, 2016 at 6:14 pm

    I kind of had this same thought when I started my blog. My goal is to help inspire and motivate, as well as suggest a way of living to persons who may be lost or need a way out financially, emotionally and spiritually… Does that extend to friends and loved ones? I think the obvious answer should be yes.

    But when a blog is very personal I don’t think there is anything wrong with keeping it to yourself.

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