I talk you listen

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I talked to my husband about quitting but I don’t think he gets the seriousness of how I feel. Or maybe I don’t get the logic of what he’s thinking. I so want him to say yes do what you think is best I’ll be here no matter what but that didn’t happen. He’s caught up in the amount I make and no other job around here will match it. I think we can do with less. Maybe I’m naive. 


7 thoughts on “I talk you listen

    myambivalentexistence said:
    September 13, 2016 at 1:57 pm

    *hugs* I’m proud of you for talking to him about it. I can’t understand why he can’t see the seriousness. I mean you just got out of the hospital :/ Have you told him “I need your support right now , I need to know that no matter what I decide you will still be here for me”

      socialworkerangela responded:
      September 13, 2016 at 2:00 pm

      No I guess I feel I shouldn’t have to… He was like I can tell your going to end up in the hospital again 😦

        myambivalentexistence said:
        September 13, 2016 at 2:03 pm

        I get this way with hubby. I expect him to know when I need reassurances and just offer them. And he sucks at it. I have to say I need them. And it feels unfair because I put in the thought and time to reassure him if he feels uncertain :/ Grrrr. Maybe it’s a guy thing. Try telling him exactly how you feel and what you need. Tell him you don’t want to need to go back to the hospital. You need a job that doesn’t have you so drained mentally and emotionally that you are suicidal. The money cant be worth it.

        socialworkerangela responded:
        September 13, 2016 at 2:21 pm

        Ok I will 🙂

    myambivalentexistence said:
    September 13, 2016 at 3:54 pm


    Iggy said:
    September 14, 2016 at 5:18 pm

    I wanted to hear the same thing when I asked my husband if it would bother him if I quit one of my jobs. He was irritated by the tone of his voice. But I quit because I couldn’t handle it. If he didn’t understand that, tough cookies. But it sounds by your recent post that everything is ok? Hope so! xoxo

    A Single Parent's Life said:
    September 17, 2016 at 6:31 pm

    I would put together a budget biased off of a new job at a lesser amount. Show him how you think you can cut back on things or things you can change to save money and how you feel you could live on the amount a new job would give you. Maybe agree to take all but the amount that you would be making into a savings and just live on that amount for a month to show him that you can. Maybe having that money in savings and seeing that you can live off less will change his mind. Maybe knowing that you are working on getting out of your job now will help easy your mind a little. You will know you are job hunting and sticking to a budget that will allow you to change jobs faster since you are willing and able to take a pay cut.

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