When therapy gets hard

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I had therapy yesterday and it out me in a funk. He pointed out how engrained perfectionism is in my head due to my childhood but didn’t give insight into how to change it.

I had a conversation with a friend yesterday afterwards and he said just choose to be happy. Is it a choice? I wish it was or I’d choose it. Do I let my mental health be an excuse for general unhappiness? This made the funk stagnate though it gave me something to ponder.

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13 thoughts on “When therapy gets hard

    makingtimeforme said:
    February 10, 2016 at 11:58 am

    I believe that it is a very conscious choice you make to be happy. My therapist has made me realize that most of what made me “unhappy” was my stuff. It was my reaction to things. You have to relearn it and it is a choice you make every single day. Do what makes you happy. Of course, not while ruining other peoples lives/days. Though you can surround yourself with things that make you happy, choose your reaction to unhappy situations that lead you down a happy path.

      socialworkerangela responded:
      February 11, 2016 at 8:39 am

      I see what your saying it’s like positive thinking changes your outlook on situations

        makingtimeforme said:
        February 11, 2016 at 8:44 am

        Yes ma’am. You should read the book the Secret or if you have Netflix, watch the documentary. It really might help 🙂 Also there is a book called the Energy Bus, by Jon Gordon, it is AMAZING!!

        socialworkerangela responded:
        February 11, 2016 at 8:53 am

        Thanks for the suggestion I’ll check it out on Netflix

        makingtimeforme said:
        February 11, 2016 at 10:22 am

        🙂

    BipolarOnFire said:
    February 10, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    Is it that easy, just to choose to be happy? I think that’s some idiot advice, sorry. If that were the case, no one would need therapy, medication, support, there’d be no diagnosis of depression, etc. We would just be happy. We are a tangled mess of feelings, habits and chemicals. It’s hard to sort through. I know I’m a perfectionist too and some of that, I love, like doing things really well, and a job well done. Sometimes it’s just stupid and doesn’t serve me at all. I guess it’s making that distinction and saying “this doesn’t have to be perfect” (like how I fold clothes, it doesn’t have to be that perfect). Ya know what I mean? Love your blog, as always. Always real.

      socialworkerangela responded:
      February 11, 2016 at 8:41 am

      I agree idiot advice I’m going to blog today more my thoughts on it as I’ve come to a realization 🙂

    Ava Savage said:
    February 10, 2016 at 12:47 pm

    Bipolar on Fire you said it perfect, who wouldn’t choose to be happy if we could.

    stuffthatneedssaying said:
    February 10, 2016 at 1:09 pm

    It’s certainly not as easy as thinking “I choose to be happy” and suddenly becoming happy, but I think the opposite is kind of true. You can definitely choose to stay unhappy rather than making an effort to do things that increase your happiness.

      socialworkerangela responded:
      February 11, 2016 at 8:44 am

      I think we can try and stay positive but with a chemical imbalance it isn’t always my choice to be negative if that made sense

    365daysinthegarden said:
    February 10, 2016 at 1:16 pm

    Sometimes it’s a choice, sometimes it isn’t. And sometimes you don’t know. I can usually choose to be positive, but I can’t always choose to be happy. There’s a difference. Sometimes I try to make the choice to be happy, but my brain tells me otherwise. Sometimes you need to be not happy. It’s not black and white….never has, never will be.

      socialworkerangela responded:
      February 11, 2016 at 8:46 am

      I agree it’s more of a positivity thing then a happiness thing

    timswife said:
    February 11, 2016 at 5:05 am

    I’ve blogged similar today after my mother in law told me I should forget my past and concentrate on my family, I wish it was as easy as that.

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